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So the person you’re into just told you that they have herpes. Now what?

Honestly, this is great news. This person really cares about you and is doing what he or she can do to try to prevent transmission. Transmissions occur less often when a disclosure takes place because the person with herpes can take precautionary methods to help avoid transmission. 

But here are 5 things you need to know about dating someone with herpes.

1. Firstly, you need to know that that person really cares about …

Posting and talking about our wellness products and so many of you DM’d or commented and said that you had never tried them or have never heard of them. So clearly I was not doing my job and was not sharing the best thing in the herpes world since sliced bread. 

So let me tell you how the Secret Society Wellness products got started. There are 2 out of 3 people living with HSV1, now not all of it is oral herpes but the majority of it is. And I realized that there is really nothing out there o…

The amount of times that I get asked about having oral herpes down there is astonishing. I mean that not in an ignorant way but in a way that so many people are now getting oral herpes down there.  

Before we go into why that’s happening let’s back up and explain HSV 1 and HSV 2.

HSV or Herpes Simplex Virus was originally thought to just be one type. You either got blisters on your mouth or on your genitals. It wasn’t until we had better technology to be able to tell the difference in the DN…

This is something that we all ask as soon as we are diagnosed. When we find out that the answer is no. We then ask, why not?

The herpes virus is kind of a difficult one to solve. One of the reasons is how the virus lays dormant in some people and in others it is in replication mode. 

Basically the virus switches between the "latent" stage and the "lytic" stage, in which it is actively replicating, depending on how tightly its DNA is packaged into bundles called chromatin.  (source)

Latent s…

Like I’ve mentioned before when I have asked you guys about the Secret Society Wellness products on my social media platforms you guys have told me that you don’t know about it. So with that being said, I’ve been failing you guys and not sharing the best herpes products ever! 

Just a quick background on the vision here. You guys were asking for something to help with outbreaks that was natural and didn’t require a prescription. So our first product was the Lifesaver SPF Lip Balm.  We spent ab…

There are a ton of myths and misinformation out there when it comes to herpes and actually living with herpes. We all have had our preconceived notions and ideas of what someone with herpes looks like, acts like and how he or she got herpes. We all made jokes at it and believed that it would never happen to us. 

Well… let’s fast forward to the majority of the population having herpes. 2 out of 3 have HSV 1 - that’s 3.7 billion people and 1 out of 6 have HSV 2. It’s so unbelievably common and …

So here’s the deal. More women have herpes than men. I know…it is what it is. 

The virus is sexually transmitted more easily from men to women than it is from women to men.source  HSV-2 infection is more common among women than among men; the percentages of those infected during 2015-2016 were 15.9% versus 8.2% respectively, among 14 to 49 year-olds. (Source) This is possibly because genital infection is more easily transmitted from men to women than from women to men during penile-vaginal se…

The Secret Society Wellness Products are something that I have not done a great job of sharing with you. These are products that I formulated with specialists to create natural soothing solutions to people living with herpes outbreaks. We launched the first product in 2019 and now we have 11 different wellness products. 

So today I want to talk about the only lube that has been formulated to support people living with herpes. As we all know friction can cause outbreaks. The last thing we want…

This is a question I get almost daily. I either get DM’s, or it’s posted in our Secret Society Support Group, or you guys comment on my posts. The aftermath of being diagnosed with herpes is real. 

Firstly let’s talk about anxiety. What is it?

Experiencing anxiety here and there is 100% normal. We have times that we are freaking out. For example;, we can have anxiety of taking a final exam because if we don’t get a certain grade the we won't pass and then we won't graduate because we have to…

Having herpes is actually a blessing. 

Here me out on this one. I know you’re not believing me if you were just diagnosed with herpes. And I didn’t see it that way at all back in 2011. I’ve talked to thousands of people who have been diagnosed with herpes and it always starts out the same way. It starts out as, my life is over and how do I cure this. I’ve talked to people who are suicidal, (here’s the hotline if this is where you’re at 800-273-8255). Basically I’ve seen all levels of devastat…