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We’re continuing on as we learn more about the Secret Society Wellness products. I’ve been posting and talking about our wellness products and so many of you DM’d or commented and said that you had never tried them or have never heard of them. So clearly I was not doing my job and was not sharing the best thing in the herpes world since sliced bread. 

So let me tell you how the Secret Society Wellness products got started. There are 2 out of 3 people living with HSV1, now not all of it is oral …

Rejection as a whole is a legit fear. It sucks, it hurts and we feel like we’re failures. We just put our heart or effort into something to have it not work out. Rejection can look like not getting invited to the sleepover when you’re in the 6th grade, or not getting into the University of your choice, to not getting the job and so on. Now we add rejection when it comes to love or what we think is love. I mean when you really like that guy or girl, to have them ghost you really hurts. 

I got ge…

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Alexandra: Hey, you guys, I'm a Alexandra Harbushka, founder of lifewithherpes. I'm really excited to do share it with Amanda Neely. This is gonna be a completely different type of interview, conversation. Let me tell you a little bit about Amanda Neely.

She is a financial professional who has used her childhood upbringing or experience with her parents, her own experience in life to create wisdom around finance and our finances. For you guys, if you're like what, this is…

I didn’t know if I wanted to have kids but one of the first questions I asked my doctor when I was diagnosed with herpes was, “can I still have a baby”?

Becoming a parent is such a gift and whether or not we know we want to become parents, to have the option or choice taken from you feels gut wrenching. That was exactly how I felt while I was waiting for my doctor to answer. 

Now you can fast forward and look at my Instagram, Tiktok and see that I’m a mommy to the most adorable little boy. So …

This is by far one of the best things you can do for yourself ever…not to mention especially when you  have a herpes outbreak.

You might have watched the last few videos or read a few of the blog posts as I’ve talked about the Secret Society Wellness products that were created specifically for people living with herpes outbreaks. But in case you haven’t heard of the Secret Society Wellness, let me tell you. The first product we came out with was the SPF Lifesaver Lip Balm. I can remember launch…

Okay so now you’re diagnosed with Herpes and you want to do everything possible to prevent the next outbreak or if you get one speed up the recovery time and lessen the severity of it, right?

That was exactly me as well. 

I’ve noticed that when people are first diagnosed with herpes they do 1 of 3 things. They go into fight mode, flight mode or freeze mode. We do all sorts of things with these modes; we loose it with our partner, we become angry people to be around, we just curl up in a ball a…

Before being diagnosed with herpes we have so many misconceptions about who has herpes and what it is like living with herpes. Honestly most of them are myths. I'll go through some myths that I had and I’d love to hear what yours are. 

Let me also say this: I taught sexed when I was in high school. There was this really cool program through Planned Parenthood where high-schoolers who went through Planned Parenthood’s training could go out into San Diego high schools and pier educated other high…

When I ask you guys on social media if you know about the Secret Society Wellness products most of you say, no. Then if I ask you what do you know about a specific product or how do you like to use it I also get cricket. Many of you have dm’d me or left a comment asking to tell me more or how do I use this. 

So here we are talking about the Secret Society Wellness and the Rescue Balm.

First, let me start out by saying that I started the Secret Society Wellness products in 2019. I was actually …

Now that we’ve received the diagnosis we’re living with herpes. There are probably so many questions running through your head and not to mention they are scary.

Some of them might be:
Will I ever date?
Will this outbreak ever go away?
Will I get another one?
What if I get rejected when I disclose?
Will anyone ever love me with herpes?
How do I disclose?
Can I get married?
What will cause outbreaks?
Is there a herpes cure?
Will I be able to have kids?
Who did I get herpes from?
And so many more questions…

There is nothing that prepares you for the phone call you get from your doctor, or the email or even the in visit check up when your doctor says, “you have herpes”. 

Most of us are shocked, deer in the headlights, frozen, and probably end up crying. 

I was there in 2011 when I was diagnosed with genital HSV2 herpes. Today is not the day for my story, you can watch that here but today is talk about what physically is going on and then the emotional trauma we go through. 

Physically:

• Flu-lik…