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There are a ton of myths and misinformation out there when it comes to herpes and actually living with herpes. We all have had our preconceived notions and ideas of what someone with herpes looks like, acts like and how he or she got herpes. We all made jokes at it and believed that it would never happen to us. 

Well… let’s fast forward to the majority of the population having herpes. 2 out of 3 have HSV 1 - that’s 3.7 billion people and 1 out of 6 have HSV 2. It’s so unbelievably common and …

So here’s the deal. More women have herpes than men. I know…it is what it is. 

The virus is sexually transmitted more easily from men to women than it is from women to men.source  HSV-2 infection is more common among women than among men; the percentages of those infected during 2015-2016 were 15.9% versus 8.2% respectively, among 14 to 49 year-olds. (Source) This is possibly because genital infection is more easily transmitted from men to women than from women to men during penile-vaginal se…

The Secret Society Wellness Products are something that I have not done a great job of sharing with you. These are products that I formulated with specialists to create natural soothing solutions to people living with herpes outbreaks. We launched the first product in 2019 and now we have 11 different wellness products. 

So today I want to talk about the only lube that has been formulated to support people living with herpes. As we all know friction can cause outbreaks. The last thing we want…

This is a question I get almost daily. I either get DM’s, or it’s posted in our Secret Society Support Group, or you guys comment on my posts. The aftermath of being diagnosed with herpes is real. 

Firstly let’s talk about anxiety. What is it?

Experiencing anxiety here and there is 100% normal. We have times that we are freaking out. For example;, we can have anxiety of taking a final exam because if we don’t get a certain grade the we won't pass and then we won't graduate because we have to…

Having herpes is actually a blessing. 

Here me out on this one. I know you’re not believing me if you were just diagnosed with herpes. And I didn’t see it that way at all back in 2011. I’ve talked to thousands of people who have been diagnosed with herpes and it always starts out the same way. It starts out as, my life is over and how do I cure this. I’ve talked to people who are suicidal, (here’s the hotline if this is where you’re at 800-273-8255). Basically I’ve seen all levels of devastat…

We’re continuing on as we learn more about the Secret Society Wellness products. I’ve been posting and talking about our wellness products and so many of you DM’d or commented and said that you had never tried them or have never heard of them. So clearly I was not doing my job and was not sharing the best thing in the herpes world since sliced bread. 

So let me tell you how the Secret Society Wellness products got started. There are 2 out of 3 people living with HSV1, now not all of it is oral …

Rejection as a whole is a legit fear. It sucks, it hurts and we feel like we’re failures. We just put our heart or effort into something to have it not work out. Rejection can look like not getting invited to the sleepover when you’re in the 6th grade, or not getting into the University of your choice, to not getting the job and so on. Now we add rejection when it comes to love or what we think is love. I mean when you really like that guy or girl, to have them ghost you really hurts. 

I got ge…

Amanda's story

Alexandra: Hey, you guys, I'm a Alexandra Harbushka, founder of lifewithherpes. I'm really excited to do share it with Amanda Neely. This is gonna be a completely different type of interview, conversation. Let me tell you a little bit about Amanda Neely.

She is a financial professional who has used her childhood upbringing or experience with her parents, her own experience in life to create wisdom around finance and our finances. For you guys, if you're like what, this is…

I didn’t know if I wanted to have kids but one of the first questions I asked my doctor when I was diagnosed with herpes was, “can I still have a baby”?

Becoming a parent is such a gift and whether or not we know we want to become parents, to have the option or choice taken from you feels gut wrenching. That was exactly how I felt while I was waiting for my doctor to answer. 

Now you can fast forward and look at my Instagram, Tiktok and see that I’m a mommy to the most adorable little boy. So …

This is by far one of the best things you can do for yourself ever…not to mention especially when you  have a herpes outbreak.

You might have watched the last few videos or read a few of the blog posts as I’ve talked about the Secret Society Wellness products that were created specifically for people living with herpes outbreaks. But in case you haven’t heard of the Secret Society Wellness, let me tell you. The first product we came out with was the SPF Lifesaver Lip Balm. I can remember launch…